It seems like the soundtrack to Jaws is playing in the background of all our lives. Do you remember that scary incessant quickening sound, da duh, da duh, da duh, da duh … Do you also wonder, will it get me? I was writing an article about Israel and the Corona Virus interrupted. They tell us the virus is spreading rapidly and there’s even a possibility of risking death. OMG!
Being in my sixties―the more dangerous age that folks talk about as being a more vulnerable group, this is something new for me and not to my liking. I’m not used to feeling old, let alone so vulnerable. Well maybe a bit time-worn during Orange Theory Fitness routines but I’m still there trying my best next to the other sweating, grunting exercisers, most of whom are much younger.
I was still there until they had to close their doors too. I’ve always said I may not love exercising but I’m already missing the people, whether the other members, front office staff or coaches. The routines are so hard that it’s the comradery that gets me there and surviving during the class is the only thing on my mind. The endorphins by the end of the class make me feel so good and loopy that I neglect to cancel the next session I have scheduled.
This is unimaginable. In so few days our worlds have been turned upside down. And for most of us, we’re just reading the news. But the news is bad shutting down everything from places to eat, gather and for many, make money. What’s happening is shocking and seems other-worldly.
If you recall (I know I do), I don’t do well under unexpected terrorizing situations threatening my life—see my book, “BLASTED from COMPLACENCY: A Journey from Terror to Transformation in Israel.” Maybe you’ll have the time to read it : )
As I said, I had been writing an article about Israel, but what’s going on made me set it aside for another day. I didn’t want to ignore the pain that so many are experiencing here in the U.S. and the entire world. Our lives are changing by the minute. And yes, in Israel too, they are dealing with this Corona Virus fiend, in between running to bomb shelters where it’s not possible to maintain a six-foot distance apart.
I know intellectually that scientists must understand the scope through the numbers, but these are people, not just statistics that are getting sick, many even dying. They have families, friends and coworkers that need and miss them and will grieve if they pay the ultimate price of breathing in the wrong place at the wrong time. And they say it will get much worse before it even begins to get better.
I scramble to think of the positives, you too? Some of what’s happened has been surprisingly good. I can think of several things.
My son and all his friends have come home from college or are on their way. Classes will be online at least through the end of the semester. Now would I have wanted this to happen? Of course not. I wish he was continuing to carve out his independent life on campus. Being empty nesters was taking some getting used to, but we were managing. I’m not sure that when he’s away if I’ll ever get used to wondering how he is. But having him here during these uncertain times does help. I like the fact that he will be more likely to check in with his local friends, many he’s known most of his life, now that they are all home and can compare notes as they’ve been trying on their adult shoes.
As for me, when your life has portions taken away, you take note. Hopefully even become more appreciative. Like our weekly visits to temple. Our synagogue has closed for the foreseeable future.
Nothing beats the comradery of face-to-face communications, but online connections certainly help. One can pray anywhere, and it is part of my twice daily meditations, but it’s not the same without the music, drumbeat and community.
A kind congregation member checked in on how we were doing, and I mentioned that I loved seeing her grandchildren on Facebook. Next thing I knew, her daughter-in-law contacted me through Facebook Live while her toddler, baby and dancing husband (who also happens to be a rabbi) brightened my mood. Her lovely voice is always great to listen to and her daughter obviously wants to be the next singer in the family. It was a joy to see the youngsters smiling and laughing with each other and their parents. Thank you!
Do you also miss those days when you could bounce your kids on your knee or fly them through the air? My son is 6’1” now and just yesterday tried to pick me up for fun.
Another gift from the Universe was hearing from family and friends. Some I haven’t spoken with in a very long time. Peoples’ lives are very busy and not everyone takes the time to connect as often as they would like. Over the last couple of days, I’ve truly enjoyed catching up with some friends. You know the kind who no matter how long it’s been, you just continue the conversation as if you had never been apart.
So now it’s back to staying home and making good use of the time. It’s hard to have a career of speaking when gatherings are forbidden. Oy. I can’t wait to be able to give a talk again and meet more people, but for now there are more than enough projects to keep me busy.
Please be safe, and if possible stay home. Peace, שלום, سلام
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3 responses to “The Corona Virus Seems to Be Crossing Our Continent Like Jaws”
Thanks for your kind words about my family. Lovely.
I enjoyed your blog, Penny, and it echoed much of what I’m going through here. Grateful to have a chest freezer that’s about half full with (mostly) homemade food. Am not feeling the pinch of “what can I fix for the next meal” yet. Of course, there are trips to the grocery store–but I still wish I could find eggs. Well, we have 8 left, plus 2 hardboiled ones, anyhow; we’ll be conservative. Kind of interesting we’ve been undergoing a home-interior facelift. All the painting is done, and all the plank flooring. This coming Monday they’re supposed to install carpet in all the remaining rooms. Hope they are still able to come through with that, and not forced by pandemic to stay home instead. But if that happens, we’ll tough it out with all those scary carpet tack strips exposed next to the freshly painted baseboards. Honestly, though, in the whole scheme of things, these problems are insignificant, as we DO have our health and each other, plus the ability to connect online or on the telephone line with friends and loved ones. Soon, when all this blows over, I’ll be happy to return to my interrupted reputation as “the happy hugger.” Meanwhile, I remain “the happy book-manuscript copyeditor” and “the happy book-layout checker and proofreader.” I thank God for the technology that makes it possible to conduct business as usual in that arena. One more thing: If your readers are stuck at home and lacking for interesting projects, they can always write a heartfelt letter of appreciation to someone deserving, as a lasting memento that keeps on giving, every time it’s read. Go to GoodWaysToWrite.com for more information and guidance tools, or contact me privately for the 5 things to include in your letter.
Gratitude is always a great way to concentrate on the positive. Thanks for always promoting appreciating others, it’s good for the person writing a letter of appreciation and the recipient. Stay safe! Peace, שלום, سلام